Dating someone on the same floor
While I totally understood sleeping with someone you weren't with, I never could quite grasp the idea of having that someone be a person you met less than 24 hours (or maybe even two) prior.Now, don't go labeling me as an ignorant, unaware, or sexually timid woman who wasted her early adulthood. In fact, I like to think I'm the exact opposite—someone who's strong (I was the president of my industry organizations), independent (you can count me as the main breadwinner of the relationship), and respected by the people I meet.So I said to myself, as cheesy as it sounds, "This is me, right here, right now, consciously letting my guard down.I'm going to put the energy out there in the universe that I am fun and I am into him.Sleeping with this man gave me the physical separation I had needed from my ex, the final cut to the tie we had shared..
I didn't quite know what I was about to do, but over the last few months I had learned to embrace the idea that doing whatever made me happy was perfectly okay—and that included exploring my sexuality in a new, uninhibited way.I was married to the love of my life a little less than four years, but was devoted and loyal to him for ten before that—basically for all of my twenties.While most people would cringe at the thought of missing out on dating during the years when it's socially acceptable to do a walk of shame, I didn't care.I realized I had become an adult while his maturity level was the same as when we were 20 years old.I was expected to do the cooking, the cleaning, pay the bills—everything. While I was invited to black tie events and charity fundraisers, he was happy playing beer pong at the local dive bar.