Dating someone with depression and anxiety
I knew that statistically there had to be at least a handful of 36-year-old virgins in Southern California, but I never expected one to be cute. I thought about e-mailing and suggesting they add a box on their profiles for “VIRGIN” but figured it would make me seem like a douche. After arriving home I jumped online, checked a few e-mails and saw that my friend “The Kings Fan” was online. It was a chilly Southern California fall evening (probably all of 50 degrees) and she wanted to avoid the patio and stay inside where it was “toasty”.After ordering a pitcher of margaritas we looked over the menu, trying to decide what looked good.I was watching TV Thursday night trying to decide what to write about when I realized that many of my newer readers probably haven’t seen any of my dating posts from the early days of the blog.Back in the day (late 2009-mid 2010) I blogged about some pretty memorable dates and I figured I would pull one out of the vault, touch it up and share it with you. Or Passover, depending on your religious preference.We met online and chatted a few times before deciding to go out and this was the night. ” She asked if she could meet me at my office, which was halfway between her place and the Happiest Place on Earth.
After a while we decided it was time for dinner but couldn’t figure out where to go. “I’m here with you and I want you to go Mexican tonight! My expectations for the night just went way, way up.
The Virgin told me she had heard that some “engage in relations” before they’re married but didn’t know they had a reputation. As she did I looked over and saw that perma-smile still on her face.
I smiled back and after the fireworks were over we walked hand in hand back to my car.
I realize I can't rationalize her fears or thoughts and I feel capable of just giving her emotional support during her episodes, but sometimes I wonder how long I can deal with this for.
As she's opened up more to me and as I helped her realize that she had anxiety/depression, she seems to be getting worse, but maybe that's because she's finally starting to fully recognize and deal the issue, which is really hard for her.